Your dating site closed: how to choose somewhere new

Dating sites close. Companies get sold, merged or wound up, and members are sometimes left with a login that goes nowhere and a profile they can't delete. If that has happened to you, it's worth ten minutes of housekeeping before you sign up anywhere else, and a bit more scepticism than you had the first time.

If you arrived here looking for the old Oasis site that closed in 2020: Oasis Singles is a different site, run by a different company, with no access to old accounts. About Oasis Singles explains who we are, and log in help explains why an old login won't work here.

First, tidy up what the old site left behind

The clean-up takes four steps, and the first one matters most.

1. Change reused passwords. If you used the same email and password on the old site as anywhere else, change it on those other accounts now, starting with email and banking. A closed site's old data is out of your hands.
2. Ignore old login pages. Never type your old username and password into a page that claims to be the old site or a "new version" of it. A closed site's web address can end up with anyone. A page asking for old login details is a reason to close the tab.
3. Check your card. Look through recent statements for any recurring charge you don't recognise. If something is still coming out for a service that no longer exists, call your bank or card provider; they can tell you your options.
4. Distrust "reactivation" offers. Treat any email or text about reactivating or transferring your old profile with suspicion, especially if it asks for a payment, a code or a login. Scamwatch's advice is not to share passwords, one-time codes or ID documents.

If you've already handed something over

What to check before you join anywhere new

Most people choose a dating site on looks and a gut feeling. After a closure, it's worth asking the boring questions too. Any site worth joining should answer these without you having to dig.

If you can't find the answers on a site's own pages, that tells you something.

How Oasis Singles answers those questions

Here are our answers, so you can compare like with like.

• Who runs it: High Intent Media Inc. Our facts page has the company details.
• Free and paid: joining, making a profile and browsing are free. Reading and replying to messages needs a paid membership. Prices are in US dollars and your bank converts them; see prices and the table below.
• Renewal and cancelling: memberships renew automatically until you cancel, in Settings > Billing.
• Card statement: the billing name is shown at checkout, before you pay.
• Shared profiles: profiles are shared with partner sites in the same network, so members of those sites can see and message you too.
• What's checked: every photo is reviewed. What members write about themselves is not checked. ID verification (an ID document plus a selfie) is an optional paid badge, and is required only in some cases, such as signing up through a VPN or if an account is flagged.
• Reporting: you can report a profile from inside the members area.
• Deleting: avatar > Settings > Delete Account.

US prices as shown in the members area on 16 October 2026; the members area shows the exact price, and the billing name for your statement, before you pay. Memberships renew automatically until you cancel in Settings > Billing.

How Oasis Singles works walks through the whole thing from sign-up, and keeping your dating life private covers what to leave off a new profile.

What is Australia's online dating code?

The Australian Voluntary Online Dating Code of Conduct is an industry code for dating services. According to the federal communications department, it commenced on 1 October 2024, with enforcement from 1 April 2025 after a six-month implementation period. Services that sign up commit to:

• giving users tools to report harm
• running systems to detect possible online-enabled harm, and acting on what they find
• recording and publishing how many Australian accounts they terminate, and how they moderate content

A Code Oversight Body administers the code and checks signatories' self-assessed compliance, and an independent Code Compliance Committee can issue warnings, require a compliance plan, suspend a service or remove it from the code. In November 2025, the Australia New Zealand Policing Advisory Agency published a protocol setting out how signatory services and Australian police share information.

Because the code is voluntary, not every service has signed. It's a fair question to ask any site you're considering.

Signs a site isn't worth your money

• No company name anywhere you can find it.
• Prices that only appear after you've entered your card.
• No clear way to cancel, or "cancel" means emailing someone and hoping.
• A flood of very keen messages from people far away before you've even finished your profile. That's a reason to slow down, not speed up.
• Members who quickly push you to move the conversation to another app. Scamwatch lists this as a common warning sign.

Our guide to romance scams in Australia covers the people-side red flags in detail.

Starting again without starting from scratch

You lost a profile, not what you learned writing it. Think about what worked last time: which photos got conversations going, which parts of your profile people asked about, what kind of first date you enjoyed.

Then write the new one fresh. Be specific about where you are and how far you'll travel, mention what you actually do on a weekend, and use recent photos. A line like "Based near the coast, happy to drive an hour, usually found on a bushwalk on Sundays" (an example to adapt) gives a match something real to reply to.

If you're outside the capitals, our guides to dating in a small town and active date ideas are a good place to start, and the safety page covers first meetings.